Don't worry, on second thought, there aren't that many good guys after all

I want to answer some of the insightful comments to the previous post.

First of all, whether you want to believe me or not, there was a typo in the previous post. I meant to say that there are more good girls than good guys. I think that changes things a little. That being the case, let’s address some of the comments.

To answer the first anon – I don’t have specific data to back up my assertion that there are more good girls than good guys (although it’s a study I would really like to do someday). This is just something I’ve observed. Anecdotally, I notice that all my male friends have lists of girls without trying, and my sister/cousins/their friends have to ask around to find a date. Last time I was just trying to find a reason for that.
Secondly, we can quibble on my specific calculations, but I think the point is still valid. Remember, I only gave the poor guy Five hours a night for sleep!
Any number in my calculation below that one feels is inflated can just re-asses it to the guy’s sleep time and the calculation makes sense.

Now, I’m not trying to say that it’s easier being a good girl than a good guy, just that maybe girls are slightly unrealistic in their expectations. It’s hard for every guy to be pulling in a decent salary and become a Talmud Chacham (I don’t even want to touch the learning for a few years after marriage thing yet).

This is clearly from a guy’s perspective, but it just seems that all girls want the same tachlis functionality in a guy (i.e., everything) and the only difference in what their looking for lies in the esoteric (hashkafa and what not). I think girls need to realize that not all guys are cut out for everything. Some guys are meant to sit and learn (although that number is far less then what one currently sees). Some guys are super chesed guys. Some guys just want to become rich so they can support someone else’s learning. I am not, however, saying that guys don’t have a daily obligation to learn (I think they do), but there are different levels for different people.

And to anon 2 – I need to blog just to get my thoughts out. Don’t worry, my blogging comes out of my “personal” 50 minutes a day, not my learning time ;-)

I pretty much agree with everything that Bigsister said; despite the fact that it all started out based on a typo in my post. There really are a lot of guys and girls out there in the shidduch world who probably aren’t ready to start dating. They feel they have to though, because otherwise they think they’ll just get lost in the shuffle if they wait a few years to date. That’s a discussion for another time though.

Good news is I am going to be solving all of the world’s shidduch problems this Shabbos, as I will be going to a Single’s Weekend!

Yes, you heard right, a SINGLE’S WEEKEND!!!

There will be a full report coming up next week.

For now, I just want to leave you with a Posuk from this week’s Parsha which I feel is one of the most important Pisukim in the Torah, especially for the marriage minded out there,

12 And G-d said unto Abraham: 'Let it not be grievous in thy sight because of the lad, and because of thy bondwoman; in all that Sarah saith unto thee, hearken unto her voice; for in Isaac shall seed be called to thee.

Guys – just listen to what the women have to say, it’s practically a Mitzvah ;-)

Good Shabbos to all